Al-Adab
Al-Mufrad

الأدب المفرد

02

Ties of Kinship

كتاب صِلَةِ الرَّحِمِ

 

Chapter 38: Learn your lineages so that you can maintain ties of

بَابُ تَعَلَّمُوا مِنْ أَنْسَابِكُمْ مَا تَصِلُونَ بِهِ أَرْحَامَكُمْ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 73

Ibn 'Abbas said, "Keep a record of your lines of descent so that you can maintain ties of kinship. He will not make his relatives distant when they are close relatives, even if they live far away. He will not consider them to be close relatives if they are distant ones, even if they live near to him. Every time of kinship will come on the Day of Rising in front of each individual and testify on his behalf that he has maintained that tie of kinship if he did indeed maintain it. It will testify against him that he cut if off if he cut it off."

حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ، قَالَ‏:‏ أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ سَعِيدِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو، أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَبَاهُ يُحَدِّثُ، عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ، أَنَّهُ قَالَ‏:‏ احْفَظُوا أَنْسَابَكُمْ، تَصَلُوا أَرْحَامَكُمْ، فَإِنَّهُ لاَ بُعْدَ بِالرَّحِمِ إِذَا قَرُبَتْ، وَإِنْ كَانَتْ بَعِيدَةً، وَلاَ قُرْبَ بِهَا إِذَا بَعُدَتْ، وَإِنْ كَانَتْ قَرِيبَةً، وَكُلُّ رَحِمٍ آتِيَةٌ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ أَمَامَ صَاحِبِهَا، تَشْهَدُ لَهُ بِصِلَةٍ إِنْ كَانَ وَصَلَهَا، وَعَلَيْهِ بِقَطِيعَةٍ إِنْ كَانَ قَطَعَهَا‏.‏

Chapter 303: He who requests refuge from severe trial

بَابُ مَنْ تَعَوَّذَ مِنْ جَهْدِ الْبَلاءِ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 730

Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) has narrated that the Prophet (ﷺ) sought refuge in Allah from the distress of trial, being overtaken by a tribulation, malicious rejoicing of enemies, and perversity of fate.

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلاَمٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ بْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ، عَنْ سُمَيٍّ، عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ، أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم كَانَ يَتَعَوَّذُ مِنْ جَهْدِ الْبَلاَءِ، وَدَرَكِ الشَّقَاءِ، وَشَمَاتَةِ الأعداء، وَسُوءِ الْقَضَاءِ‏.‏

Chapter 304: Repeating others words when angry

بَابُ مَنْ حَكَى كَلاَمَ الرَّجُلِ عِنْدَ الْعِتَابِ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 731

Abu Naufal bin Abu Aqrab has narrated on the authority of his father that he asked the Prophet (ﷺ) about (voluntary) fasts. He said,"observe one fast every month." He submitted, "May my father and mother be ransomed to you, permit me to keep more. "The Prophet (ﷺ) repeated (in anger) what he had said, "permit me to keep more, permit me to keep more.” He then added," keep two fasts every month". But, Abu Nawafal’s father again requested, "May my parents be ransomed to you, allow me to keep more because I find myself able (to observe more), I find myself able, I find myself able." He then maintained silence and it seemed that he would not give permission any more until he said," keep three fasts every month."

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ، وَمُسْلِمٌ نَحْوَهُ، قَالاَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا الأَسْوَدُ بْنُ شَيْبَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي نَوْفَلِ بْنِ أَبِي عَقْرَبَ، أَنَّ أَبَاهُ سَأَلَ النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم عَنِ الصَّوْمِ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ صُمْ يَوْمًا مِنْ كُلِّ شَهْرٍ، قُلْتُ‏:‏ بِأَبِي أَنْتَ وَأُمِّي، زِدْنِي، قَالَ‏:‏ زِدْنِي، زِدْنِي، صُمْ يَوْمَيْنِ مِنْ كُلِّ شَهْرٍ، قُلْتُ‏:‏ بِأَبِي أَنْتَ وَأُمِّي، زِدْنِي، فَإِنِّي أَجِدُنِي قَوِيًّا، فَقَالَ‏:‏ إِنِّي أَجِدُنِي قَوِيًّا، إِنِّي أَجِدُنِي قَوِيًّا، فَأَفْحَمَ، حَتَّى ظَنَنْتُ أَنَّهُ لَنْ يَزِيدَنِي، ثُمَّ قَالَ‏:‏ صُمْ ثَلاَثًا مِنْ كُلِّ شَهْرٍ‏.‏

Chapter 305: Chapter

بَابُ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 732

Jabir bin Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) said that they were with the Prophet (ﷺ)when a very stinking gush of wind blew over there. The Prophet (ﷺ) they asked his companions (ra) if they knew what that was. He added, "It is the (stinking) air of those people who backbite the believers."

حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مَعْمَرٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَارِثِ، عَنْ وَاصِلٍ مَوْلَى أَبِي عُيَيْنَةَ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي خَالِدُ بْنُ عُرْفُطَةَ، عَنْ طَلْحَةَ بْنِ نَافِعٍ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ قَالَ‏:‏ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَارْتَفَعَتْ رِيحٌ خَبِيثَةٌ مُنْتِنَةٌ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ أَتَدْرُونَ مَا هَذِهِ‏؟‏ هَذِهِ رِيحُ الَّذِينَ يَغْتَابُونَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ‏.‏

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 733

Jabir (May Allah be pleased with him) said that (once) a bad smelling wind blew in the times of the prophet Ig. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said," The hypocrites are backbiting the Muslims. That is why this wind blows"

حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا فُضَيْلُ بْنُ عِيَاضٍ، عَنْ سُلَيْمَانَ، عَنْ أَبِي سُفْيَانَ، عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ‏:‏ هَاجَتْ رِيحٌ مُنْتِنَةٌ عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ إِنَّ نَاسًا مِنَ الْمُنَافِقِينَ اغْتَابُوا أُنَاسًا مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ، فَبُعِثَتْ هَذِهِ الرِّيحُ لِذَلِكَ‏.‏

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 734

It is reported by Qasim bin Abdur Rahman as-Shami that he heard Ibn Unm Abd say, "If a believer is backbitten before someone and he helps the believer (by refuting backbiting) then Allah will reward him well in this world and the next. And, if a believer is backbitten before someone and he does not help him (by not refuting the backbiting) then Allah will give him a bad return for that in this world and the next. Further, if anyone does not take a morsel more than backbiting in his mouth and says that which he knows about him then he has backbitten him but if he says what he does not know about him then he has slandered him.

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي مُعَاوِيَةُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ، عَنْ كَثِيرِ بْنِ الْحَارِثِ، عَنِ الْقَاسِمِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الشَّامِيِّ، سَمِعْتُ ابْنَ أُمِّ عَبْدٍ يَقُولُ‏:‏ مَنِ اغْتِيبَ عِنْدَهُ مُؤْمِنٌ فَنَصَرهُ جَزَاهُ اللَّهُ بِهَا خَيْرًا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ، وَمَنِ اغْتِيبَ عِنْدَهُ مُؤْمِنٌ فَلَمْ يَنْصُرْهُ جَزَاهُ اللَّهُ بِهَا فِي الدُّنْيَا وَالْآخِرَةِ شَرًّا، وَمَا الْتَقَمَ أَحَدٌ لُقْمَةً شَرًّا مِنَ اغْتِيَابِ مُؤْمِنٍ، إِنْ قَالَ فِيهِ مَا يَعْلَمُ، فَقَدِ اغْتَابَهُ، وَإِنْ قَالَ فِيهِ بِمَا لاَ يَعْلَمُ فَقَدْ بَهَتَهُ‏.‏

Chapter 306: Backbiting And Allah’s words "And backbite not one another"

بَابُ الْغِيبَةِ، وَقَوْلُ اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ‏:‏ ‏{‏وَلاَ يَغْتَبْ بَعْضُكُمْ بَعْضًا‏}‏

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 735

It is reported by Jabir bin Abdullah (May Allah be pleased with him) that they had accompanied the messenger of Allah when they came to two graves. Both the inmate of the graves were being punished. He said," They are being punished not for committing a grave sin. But, yes! (They are grave sins though on the face of it they are ordinary and it is easy to avoid them but their punishment is severe.) One of them was given to backbite other people while the other was not. Careful to clean himself of urine drops (over his body)". He then asked for one or two branches of fresh date palm and split them and dug them on each grave. He said afterwards," Soon their punishment will be softened as long as the branches are green." Or he said, “Until they dry up.”

حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا النَّضْرُ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الْعَوَّامِ عَبْدُ الْعَزِيزِ بْنُ رَبِيعٍ الْبَاهِلِيُّ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الزُّبَيْرِ مُحَمَّدٌ، عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ قَالَ‏:‏ كُنَّا مَعَ رَسُولِ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم، فَأَتَى عَلَى قَبْرَيْنِ يُعَذَّبُ صَاحِبَاهُمَا، فَقَالَ‏:‏ إِنَّهُمَا لاَ يُعَذَّبَانِ فِي كَبِيرٍ، وَبَلَى، أَمَّا أَحَدُهُمَا فَكَانَ يَغْتَابُ النَّاسَ، وَأَمَّا الْآخَرُ فَكَانَ لاَ يَتَأَذَّى مِنَ الْبَوْلِ، فَدَعَا بِجَرِيدَةٍ رَطْبَةٍ، أَوْ بِجَرِيدَتَيْنِ، فَكَسَرَهُمَا، ثُمَّ أَمَرَ بِكُلِّ كِسْرَةٍ فَغُرِسَتْ عَلَى قَبْرٍ، فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ أَمَا إِنَّهُ سَيُهَوَّنُ مِنْ عَذَابِهِمَا مَا كَانَتَا رَطْبَتَيْنِ، أَوْ لَمْ تَيْبَسَا‏.‏

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 736

It is reported by Qays that Amr bin al-Aas (May Allah be pleased with him) was going somewhere with his friends. They saw a dead mule whose belly had swollen up. Amr (May Allah be pleased with him)said," By Allah, it is better for one to eat to his full from this (dead mule) than to eat the flesh of a Muslim" (He meant to say that to backbite anyone is worse than eating the meat of a dead animal).

حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ نُمَيْرٍ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ، عَنْ قَيْسٍ قَالَ‏:‏ كَانَ عَمْرُو بْنُ الْعَاصِ يَسِيرُ مَعَ نَفَرٍ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ، فَمَرَّ عَلَى بَغْلٍ مَيِّتٍ قَدِ انْتَفَخَ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ وَاللَّهِ، لَأَنْ يَأْكُلَ أَحَدُكُمْ هَذَا حَتَّى يَمْلَأَ بَطْنَهُ، خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَنْ يَأْكُلَ لَحْمَ مُسْلِمٍ‏.‏

Chapter 307: Backbiting the Dead

بَابُ الْغِيبَةِ لِلْمَيِّتِ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 737

It is reported by Abu Hurayrah (May Allah be pleased with him) that Maiz bin Maalik al-Aslami (ra) came to the Prophet (ﷺ) repeatedly (so that he may be given the prescribed punishment for the sin he had committed). When he came the fourth time, the Prophet (ﷺ) gave orders for Rajam and he was stoned to death. The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) and a few of his companions afterwards passed by him. One of the companions remarked," How many times this perished man came to the Prophet, and each time he turned him away until he was stoned like a dog." The Prophet (ﷺ) did not say anything and walked ahead till they came to the corpse of a donkey with its legs in the air. He said,"Eat some of this (corpse)." They asked "Messenger of Allah, from this dead donkey?" He said to them." That you have just backbited your brother is more serious than eating some of it (the donkey's corpse). By him in whose hand the soul of Muhammad is, he (Mariz bin Maalik) is now among the rivers of paradise plunging into it".

حَدَّثَنَا عَمْرُو بْنُ خَالِدٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحِيمِ، عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَبِي أُنَيْسَةَ، عَنْ أَبِي الزُّبَيْرِ، عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ الْهَضْهَاضِ الدَّوْسِيِّ، عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ‏:‏ جَاءَ مَاعِزُ بْنُ مَالِكٍ الأَسْلَمِيُّ، فَرَجَمَهُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم عِنْدَ الرَّابِعَةِ، فَمَرَّ بِهِ رَسُولُ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم وَمَعَهُ نَفَرٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ، فَقَالَ رَجُلاَنِ مِنْهُمْ‏:‏ إِنَّ هَذَا الْخَائِنَ أَتَى النَّبِيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم مِرَارًا، كُلُّ ذَلِكَ يَرُدُّهُ، حَتَّى قُتِلَ كَمَا يُقْتَلُ الْكَلْبُ، فَسَكَتَ عَنْهُمُ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم حَتَّى مَرَّ بِجِيفَةِ حِمَارٍ شَائِلَةٌ رِجْلُهُ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ كُلاَ مِنْ هَذَا، قَالاَ‏:‏ مِنْ جِيفَةِ حِمَارٍ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ‏؟‏ قَالَ‏:‏ فَالَّذِي نِلْتُمَا مِنْ عِرْضِ أَخِيكُمَا آنِفًا أَكْثَرُ، وَالَّذِي نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ فَإِنَّهُ فِي نَهْرٍ مِنْ أَنْهَارِ الْجَنَّةِ يَتَغَمَّسُ‏.‏

Chapter 308: He who strokes the head of a boy with his father and invokes blessings on him

بَابُ مَنْ مَسَّ رَأْسَ صَبِيٍّ مَعَ أَبِيهِ وَبَرَّكَ عَلَيْهِ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 738

Ubadah bin Walid said that he came out with his father Ubadah bin al-Samit and he was a young man at that time. They met an elderly Shaikh who had a mantle over him and Maafi garments. His slave too had a mantle and Maafai. The narrator (Ubadah bin Walid) said," My uncle! In this way, you would have had a pair of good quality garments and he would have had one striped mantle". The man turned to Ubadah bin al-Samit and asked," Is he your son?" He said," yes" Ubadah bin Walid said that the Shaikh stroked his head and said," May Allah bless you! I bear testimony that I heard the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) say that we must feed the slaves the same thing that we eat and clothe them that which we wear. O son of my brother! It is more dear to me that I lose the possessions of this world than I lose anything of the hereafter". Ubadah bin Walid asked his father who the Shaikh was and he said." He is Abu al-Yasr Kab bin Amr"

حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ، قَالَ‏:‏ أَخْبَرَنَا حَنْظَلَةُ بْنُ عَمْرٍو الزُّرَقِيُّ الْمَدَنِيُّ قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو حَزْرَةَ قَالَ‏:‏ أَخْبَرَنِي عُبَادَةُ بْنُ الْوَلِيدِ بْنِ عُبَادَةَ بْنِ الصَّامِتِ قَالَ‏:‏ خَرَجْتُ مَعَ أَبِي وَأَنَا غُلاَمٌ شَابٌّ، فَنَلْقَى شَيْخًا، قُلْتُ‏:‏ أَيْ عَمِّ، مَا مَنَعَكَ أَنْ تُعْطِيَ غُلاَمَكَ هَذِهِ النَّمِرَةَ، وَتَأْخُذَ الْبُرْدَةَ، فَتَكُونُ عَلَيْكَ بُرْدَتَانِ، وَعَلَيْهِ نَمِرَةٌ‏؟‏ فَأَقْبَلَ عَلَى أَبِي فَقَالَ‏:‏ ابْنُكَ هَذَا‏؟‏ قَالَ‏:‏ نَعَمْ، قَالَ‏:‏ فَمَسَحَ عَلَى رَأْسِي وَقَالَ‏:‏ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ فِيكَ، أَشْهَدُ لَسَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَقُولُ‏:‏ أَطْعِمُوهُمْ مِمَّا تَأْكُلُونَ، وَاكْسُوهُمْ مِمَّا تَكْتَسُونَ، يَا ابْنَ أَخِي، ذَهَابُ مَتَاعِ الدُّنْيَا أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ مِنْ أَنْ يَأْخُذَ مِنْ مَتَاعِ الْآخِرَةِ، قُلْتُ‏:‏ أَيْ أَبَتَاهُ، مَنْ هَذَا الرَّجُلُ‏؟‏ قَالَ‏:‏ أَبُو الْيَسَر كَعْبِ بْنُ عَمْرٍو‏.‏

Chapter 309: Intimate relations of Muslims with one another

بَابُ دَالَّةِ أَهْلِ الإِسْلامِ بَعْضُهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 739

Muhammad bin Ziyad said that he found that the predecessors (that is, the companions and their successors) lived together with their families. When a guest of one of them arrived and he found the cooking pot of another on the stove, he would take it serve his guest from it. When the owner of the cooking pot found it missing, he would enquire and the man who had taken it would tell him that he took it for his guest. There upon the owner would exclaim." May Allah bless it for you," or he would make a similar exclamation.

And Muhammad said, when bread was baked (the one with the guest would take all of it). Their homes were separated by walls made of canes".

A narration of the Hadith, Baqiyyah, said," I too found (my teacher) Muhammad bin Ziyad and his colleagues observe this practice.

حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا بَقِيَّةُ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ زِيَادٍ قَالَ‏:‏ أَدْرَكْتُ السَّلَفَ، وَإِنَّهُمْ لَيَكُونُونَ فِي الْمَنْزِلِ الْوَاحِدِ بِأَهَالِيهِمْ، فَرُبَّمَا نَزَلَ عَلَى بَعْضِهُمُ الضَّيْفُ، وَقِدْرُ أَحَدِهِمْ عَلَى النَّارِ، فَيَأْخُذُهَا صَاحِبُ الضَّيْفِ لِضَيْفِهِ، فَيَفْقِدُ الْقِدْرَ صَاحِبُهَا فَيَقُولُ‏:‏ مَنْ أَخَذَ الْقِدْرَ‏؟‏ فَيَقُولُ صَاحِبُ الضَّيْفِ‏:‏ نَحْنُ أَخَذْنَاهَا لِضَيْفِنَا، فَيَقُولُ صَاحِبُ الْقِدْرِ‏:‏ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكُمْ فِيهَا، أَوْ كَلِمَةً نَحْوَهَا قَالَ بَقِيَّةُ‏:‏ وَقَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ‏:‏ وَالْخُبْزُ إِذَا خَبَزُوا مِثْلُ ذَلِكَ، وَلَيْسَ بَيْنَهُمْ إِلاَّ جُدُرُ الْقَصَبِ‏.‏ قَالَ بَقِيَّةُ‏:‏ وَأَدْرَكْتُ أَنَا ذَلِكَ‏:‏ مُحَمَّدَ بْنَ زِيَادٍ وَأَصْحَابَهُ‏.‏